All of us will face battles from time to time. Most battles we can anticipate, but some come out of the blue. Our family is facing a battle we didn’t expect-cancer.
2017 has started off with a bang for our family. We thought last year was crazy with 5 surgeries in our little family; Becca had wisdom teeth surgery and rotator/labrum surgery, I had a hysterectomy and Emily had knee surgery and labrum surgery. We should be done right? Well, I guess not. Now it’s my husband’s turn and we’re facing a battle we weren’t prepared for and a battle we didn’t expect. My husband has cancer.
My husband has cancer. Those are words I never expected to say. They don’t even want to come out of my mouth. But now I’m being forced to say them. He’s being forced to say it. Our kids are being forced to say it. Not how we expected 2017 to begin, but here we go. First I’ll tell you how we found out because it’s just a testament to how God works and how we could have easily missed it.
My husband, Todd, is only 50 and very active and healthy, so when he had a lump/knot thing come up on his shoulder-blade, me and a lot of doctors and nurses that he works with (he works at a hospital) encouraged him to see his primary doctor and get it checked out. We all figured it just fatty tissue and nothing really to worry about. His doctor decided to send him in for a scan just to check. Everyone was right, it was no big deal, BUT, she saw tumors on his kidneys and immediately consulted with a Urologist and they both agreed it was cancer and it was aggressive.
He had to tell us, and I sat frozen for so long, unable to speak, or move. I couldn’t even ask questions, or check on the kids. I think I honestly went into shock. Then fear hit me when I looked in his eye and saw this wasn’t a dream. He took the news very well, he’s a rock that man. The kids, well, I’m amazed. I’m the one that’s freaking out! Since then, it’s been a whirlwind of appointments. Just so you know, he feels great! No symptoms at all! Which is the weirdest thing, because when people find out, they expect him to actually look sick, or feel sick, but he doesn’t. Matter of fact, if he hadn’t had the lump come up on his back we would have NEVER known he has Kidney Cancer. That lump saved his life!
In a little over a week from now, my husband will have a part of one kidney removed, and then a month from that, he will have the other kidney completely removed. All of the doctors we’ve spoken to, have said that he will be able to live a completely normal life after his surgeries and recovery, even will one partial kidney. Totally blows my mind! Just think about how many times we go in for physical, and they do blood work and everything checks out fine. That’s what my husband has had, normal blood work! It would never have been caught and one of his tumors is huge; covering 1/2 to 3/4 of the kidney. Makes you wonder if everyone should have a head to toe scan every year to catch stuff.
So far, the hardest parts have been listening to my husband tell us the news and the waiting to find out what exactly we’re facing. Waiting to find out, if I was still going to have a husband and a father for our kids. Waiting to get to the specialist. The fear of all of the unknown. Telling other people. Having other people look like they are going to break down, for you when you tell them or they ask how we’re doing, but you’re smiling because you have a secret that’s really not a secret to those that have faith.
From the moment he found out, my husband looked at us and said, “I’m not worried because God’s got this.” Whatever the outcome, He’s got this.” That’s what we’ve been saying and that’s what we believe. So when other people look at us like we’re crazy for not freaking out, or not falling apart (which I promise I have my moments and I know that all of us have at some time), we just tell them, God’s got this. Does it mean this will be a cakewalk? Of course not. It just means, that He’s here with us. It means, we’re ready to fight and he’s fighting with us. It means my husband has a life to live and he plans to live it and be back on the lake fishing tournaments by spring! It means that even though this is a battle that we weren’t prepared for, that God is already prepared for it and He’s got this. We just have to trust Him.
Please be in prayer for my husband and our family.
God’s Got This!